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tapes from 1999
The lectures that took place in 1999 were not
topic specific, and those that have been described have been described
in terms of the issues we discussed. Technique topics may vary:
Lecture 1: July 21, 1999
Opening night; Who I am, what these
lectures are for and how they came to be; The foundation of a new model
for forgiving; Complications in forgiving during issues of suicide and
murder; Divorce, betrayal and rejection
When someone hurts your kids;
Lecture 2: July 28, 1999
Forgiving in situations of: Betrayal,
rape, abuse, molestation; Death of a spouse due to someone
driving while drugged; Forgiving life for loss of health; Suicide
of a loved one... what if I was really responsible? Friend quit speaking
to me without explanation; Abusive boyfriend; abusive mate;
My mother didn’t like me; it’s affected my whole life. I keep being
used by people.
Lecture 3: August 4, 1999
Forgiveness as it applies to: Violent
Crime/Robbery (loss of innocence); Family fights and Abuse (absence of
a loving paradigm); Alzheimer's (prolonged and gradual loss of a loved
one), Multiple Losses.
Lecture 4: August 11, 1999
Does death of murder help? Exercises
in attaching to love; Fear of being responsible for loved one's suicide;
dangers in intellectualizing your pain. Depression as part of trauma
and grief. The science behind pleasure and self love. forms
of resistance.
Lecture 5: August 18, 1999
Fighting over mom's will with alcoholic
siblings; death of father; abandoned as a child; son going through messy
divorce; divorce; death of spouse; fatal illness in grandchild; sister
murdered by her husband who was seen out of prison 26 years later.
Lecture 6: August 25, 1999
Humor: The griever’s clock
The symbol of the stained glass heart
What forgiving really is: How to open yourself
up to your
own care
How to make the choice to care about you
Why distracting yourself from pain is destructive
What kind of pain can you trust? Opening
yourself to pain
and compassion
The Catch 22 of healing childhood abuse
How do you find safety when your issues are abandonment?
“My best friend has a life-threatening
disease”
Handouts: “Levels of Giving” and The pain is
not out
there”
Lecture 7: September 1, 1999
This tape is not described yet.
It’s an hour-long tape, with good sound quality. Description to follow
later
Lecture 8: September 8, 1999
This tape is not described yet.
It’s very hard to hear this tape, and though the lecture content is excellent,
it will probably be more helpful transcribed.
Lecture 9: September 15, 1999
How do I forgive the addict I’m living
with?
An explanation of pain emerging in the face of
gentleness
How speaking up for oneself is an act of forgiving
It is not enough to feel pain; it is not enough
to love others
A long explanation of how to do self love
The nature of body wisdom
Connecting with nature through breathing
The healing properties of imagery
How “forgiving” deep injury equates to the shamanic
journey
How to “forgive” the alcoholic/addict.
Lecture 10: September 22, 1999
This tape is not described yet.
It’s very hard to hear this tape, and though the lecture content is excellent,
it will probably do better to be transcribed.
Lecture 11: September 29, 1999
The audience shares ways they demonstrate
care about
themselves
Why do I cry when someone is nice, or when
I see
someone being nice to someone
else?
How art and music work to move us toward
self love
Why are we having such difficult problems
with sleep?
How do I regain trust after being betrayed?
What if I have too many injuries to heal?
How do I deal with my fear of intimacy
after growing up in
an abusive family?
Lecture 12: October 6, 1999
Audience sharing about experience
with Gentleness:
The difficulty in healing the split between
body and spirit
What do I do when taking care of me means
causing
someone else pain?
How do I motivate myself to do things without
being so stern
Self love through mindfulness... allowing
yourself to be
present in your own life
Quieting the panic and fear with your own
gentleness
How do you distinguish self love/kindness
from self
indulgence?
I thought I was making progress... now
I feel completely
stuck!
I’m drowning in stuff I won’t get rid of.
How do I ever trust again after being betrayed?
Lecture 13: October 13, 1999
The dilemma of healing injuries
of rape
Energy/will violations.
Trying to keep out the energy of others
When healing is complicated by a perception
that the
energy of the perpetrator is present in
your body.
The dilemma of asking for God’s help in
the midst of the
deepest anguish or betrayal
Lecture 14: October 19, 1999
Betrayal and infidelity
Conflict in relationships
Descriptions of #15 through 23 to come
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