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January 2, 2002: Reverence for the
future: The Grace of Intent
The end of the year, and the onset of the holy days of
unity, caring and sharing, bring with them an intense awareness of what we’ve
lost, how far we’ve come and how far we’ve not come.
Regrets of missed opportunities, mistakes made by
ourselves and by others, and plain old bad luck, clutter our views of ourselves
and our views of what life has to offer us, and can leave us believing we’ve
no where to go, and setting us up to misconstrue the future as either an
opportunity to achieve perfection, or a potential repeat of the losses of our
past.
In this week’s lecture, Patti Harada, will
summarize the philosophy of having reverence for pain and suffering as a value
to be revered, and will talk about how to go about it in a health-promoting,
self-loving manner that takes us out of the gibberish mentality of phony
spirituality and into the grounded reality of living, growing, changing and
loving unconditionally.
January 9, 2002: Chronic Relationship
Conflicts
Chronic relationship conflicts can be brutal to any hope of a peaceful life.
Our attachment to each other – or more accurately, the way in which we
attach to each other – is shown in extensive epidemiological research to be
the most important factor in our physical and emotional health.
As we age – and as we grow emotionally, intellectually and spiritually –
we are often drawn into conflict about the rightness of staying in, and the
wrongness of leaving, the primary relationships in our lives.
One view of therapy and set of self-help books leaves us wondering if we’re
avoiding our healing by staying. The next set can make us wonder if we’re
avoiding our lessons by leaving.
How do you know? How do you avoid making a costly mistake? How does one know
what "the lesson" is, and how do you get the courage to know it and
live it?
This seminar presents a biological / spiritual view of the lessons of women
and men, and offers a view of ourselves as women and as men that can both
refresh our ideas of who we are and who we might want to be in relation to the
world around us.
January 16, 2002: Side Effects of loss
This seminar gives us a chance to talk about
the complications of trauma, including shame, anger, resentment, depression and
chronic misery.
We talk about all of these side effects as normal aspects of grieving trauma
and loss that are valuable and which provide the potential for life changing
experiences.
In this week’s seminar, we will focus on specific ways to go about giving
these powerful feelings a place of honor in our lives, and talk about how to
make a companionate relationship with them so that the experience of pain
remains healing and constructive instead of degrading to the quality of our day
to day existence.
January 23, 2002:
Reverence for our Grief
Trauma brings with it an intense awareness of what we’ve lost, and a deep
fear that we’ll never find a way to repair the rips in the fabric of our lives
so that we can make a place of contentment for the future.
Regrets of missed opportunities, mistakes made by ourselves and by others,
and plain old bad luck, clutter our views of ourselves and our views of what
life has to offer us, and can leave us believing we’ve nowhere to go.
In this week’s seminar, we will summarize the philosophy of having
reverence for pain and suffering as a value to be revered, and will talk about
how to go about it in a health-promoting, self-loving manner that takes us out
of the gibberish mentality of phony spirituality and into the grounded reality
of living, growing, changing and loving unconditionally.
January 30, 2002: When
someone you love won't get help
When you are a sensitive and caring person, and you've spent some time in
life working on your own issues, you become painfully aware of the manifestation
of self hatred, denial, rationalizations and self justification others. You
literally find yourself watching those around you destroying their lives.
Often our best efforts at giving aid to those we love produces friction in
our relationships and a head strong resistance in our loved ones to anything we
have to offer. It may create the loneliest feeling in the world, as you surmise
that the more you heal the less likely it is you'll be able to stick around and
watch the spiral downward.
Come join Patti Harada as she talks about the difference between
"co-dependency" and healthy, natural caring that promotes healthy
relationships.
February 6, 2002: Forgiving: What
it is; what it isn't
Each week, through one avenue or another, we discuss Patti Harada's Meta Ego
model of achieving a state of forgiveness.
We are devoting the first lecture of each month this year to studying various
models of the forgiving process with an emphasis on what is healthy and what
requires careful observation to eliminate the dangerous potential for self harm
that can happen to those suffering severe or chronic injury.
This month's lecture will give you an opportunity to examine your grievances
in the presence of a particular set of meditative models that are found in
psychology.
As always, however, we will look at how the specific application of
Harada's "Meta Ego Model" of self love and relaxed resistance to pain
enhances the meditative models under discussion this month.
Emphasis, as in all discussions of forgiving at Patti's lectures, will be
placed on understanding what forgiving is and what it is not, so that
participants come away with an understanding that forgiving is in no way to be
construed as reconciling, condoning, pardoning, letting things slide or excusing
bad behavior on the part of others.
February 13, 2002: Valentine's
Day: Grief and Grace
He often hates Valentine’s day because he’s certain he’s going to be
martyred like the original St. Valentine if he doesn’t come through with the
right thing; She often hates the day because she fears his resistance. And both
of them find anticipating this "day of love" stressful. Still others
find themselves without a love to celebrate.
Patti Harada, instructor of the University of Arizona’s Psychology of Love
& Spirituality classes, will talk this month about the coping with Valentine’s
Day, and offer some insights about how the conflicts arise and how to get back
to comfort!
Patti’s relationship lectures talk about how our biology creates and
supports the phenomenon of giving, and how certain spiritual disciplines can
create a health promoting balance in how, when, where, why and what we give and
open opportunities for the most longed for -- and most feared -- experience of
receiving.
February 20, 2002:
Side Effects of loss: Depression
This seminar gives us a chance to talk about
the complications of trauma, including shame, anger, resentment, depression and
chronic misery.
We talk about all of these side effects as normal aspects of grieving trauma
and loss that are valuable and which provide the potential for life changing
experiences.
In this week’s seminar, we will focus on specific ways to go about giving
these powerful feelings a place of honor in our lives, and talk about how to
make a companionate relationship with them so that the experience of pain
remains healing and constructive instead of degrading to the quality of our day
to day existence.
February 27, 2002:
Reverence for our Grief
Trauma brings with it an intense awareness of what we’ve lost, and a deep
fear that we’ll never find a way to repair the rips in the fabric of our lives
so that we can make a place of contentment for the future.
Regrets of missed opportunities, mistakes made by ourselves and by others,
and plain old bad luck, clutter our views of ourselves and our views of what
life has to offer us, and can leave us believing we’ve nowhere to go.
In this week’s seminar, we will summarize the philosophy of having
reverence for pain and suffering as a value to be revered, and will talk about
how to go about it in a health-promoting, self-loving manner that takes us out
of the gibberish mentality of phony spirituality and into the grounded reality
of living, growing, changing and loving unconditionally.
