A young woman explains how the 4th lesson of women is changing her life:

In both of my previous long-term relationships, I had been involved for a minimum of two years with each person before standing up for myself.  Things had goten so far out of hand that I couldn't even see that I didn't deserve to be treated that way.  Unfortunately for the men, I had never let on that I was miserable, and I left them dumbfounded and heartbroken.  Now, I see how this happened, and I have been much more willing to hurt those that I love by saying what I need to say so that I can remain faithful to myself.

Thank you for exposing [us] to this way of thinking.  I share what you teach with my friend, and my fiancé loves to hear about what i've learned.  You have single-handedly shapped my future by offering this information.  ---JT

How a sensitive man applied the lesson of men and the first lesson of women:

During your lecture there was one thing that you said that I hoped to be able to do in the future... take risks to initiate.  You said that men have to learn to take the risk and not worry about failure.  I had a really interesting instance occur this weekend while I was at a bar in Scottsdale.  I was with a few buddies and I saw a girl that I might be interested in.  After a drink and some brief eye contact, I walked up to her and said hi, while normally I would have just left her alone.  Right off the bat she was giving me bad vibes.  She seemed to think that she was too cool or something.  I realized this and then told her that I found her really interesting and walked away and went back to hang out with my friends.  Twenty minutes later she was coming over to me, giving me drinks and telling me that she was sorry that she was being rude.  We all ended up hanging out in the bar and had a great time.  I think that this all had to do with the fact that I remembered to apply self love.  Then, when I got a bad response from the girl, I didn't start spurting insults or being rude; I just quietly walked away.  I also didn't get all shy and down on myself about being turned down.  I think this is a really good example of the results of applied self love.

A young woman explains how the principle of loving herself is making it possible for her boyfriend to come toward her.

When my boyfriend and I first started becoming serious, he dreaded having to sit and talk and tell me how he felt.  I would keep telling him how much I liked him, because I was afraid if I didn't, he would not want to be with me anymore.  I learned that by focusing on myself, it made it easier for him to start telling me how he felt.  Our relationship has flourished since then, and now we love to talk.  It is our ritual every evening.
 

A woman talks about how relaxing her resistance to her pain and applying self love surfaced the truth about her life:

when I was able to relax my resistance to the pain of abandonment and apply self love, tons of light bulbs went on concerning all areas of my life.  forgiveness came and resentments left.  I also gained an ability to be honest with myself and others about who I am as a unique person with both strengths and weaknesses, and I gained an ability to open my heart before I open my mouth.